Dating is a fun and exciting experience, but one that can be scary. Many guys have a difficult time figuring out what to do on a first date with a girl but it’s actually a lot easier than you think. This is especially if you know how to read people. But if you don’t, no worries. Because I’m going to show you how to always have successful first dates.
This article is going to give you ideas on what to do on a first date with a girl. The way you treat a girl on a first date says a lot about who you are as a person. It also goes a long way to determine what you want from it. Knowing what to do with a girl on a first date gives you confidence. It will help you decide where to go, where to meet, how long it will take – all that logistical stuff.
While dating can be confusing and there isn’t one way to do it. There are some things that you can do on a first date with a girls to make the experience more enjoyable. Just take proper steps to make a good impression and win them over. This will make you have a good chance for future dates. Here you’ll find some top dating tips on what to do on a first date with a girl.
What To Do On a First Date With a Girl
I guess you are anxious and ready. Here we go!
Figure out where you want to take your date.
The place of the date definitely sets the tone for the date. But the hardest thing about the first date is figuring out exactly where to go. This depends on if she trusts you enough to let you pick her up. If picking her up isn’t a problem then do so when you ask her out.
Carefully notice what she has on……if she has on jeans and tennis shoes take her somewhere like the mall, amusement park, etc. But if she wears a dress then take her out to a fancy restaurant or somewhere elegant.
Besides, if you know her personality then it’s a million times easier. If she’s an artist take her to an art museum and talk about art duh… Essentially you want to subtly find out what her personal interests are. Also be sure to make your first dates include her hobbies and personal interests.
But above all else… The golden rule is NEVER ASK HER WHERE SHE WANTS TO GO. Because, it takes away your manliness and makes you look less confident and weak.
Choose clothes that that make you feel confident.
Your ripped jeans may be lucky, but remember, this will be the first impression your date gets of you. Yes, you should never pretend to be someone that you’re not, but a girl might like to see that you take pride in your appearance. Don’t worry, this doesn’t mean you need to wear a full tuxedo. But just having a shower, a shave and putting on something suitable will help you impress your date and get you off to a good start.
But remember that the way you dress depends on the place you’re going. The best thing to wear is; a button down shirt, a nice t-shirt, and if it’s cold outside then wear a sweater or jacket.
For pants you want to always wears either jeans or khakis. Wearing anything else can be disastrous if you end up changing venues….for shoes you either want to wear NICE sneakers or very casual shoes like sperry’s or converse.
Cologne is very key, if it’s a night even wear something musky (not the bad type of musky) if it’s a day even wear something fruity (like polo red). Also, always wear a body wash/soap to match the cologne and always wash your hair. Also never overdo any scent. For cologne, a little goes a long way, and keep it focused on upper chest and shoulders. Because, that’s the place her head will go when she hugs you. Now all you have to worry about is turning up on time.
Pick her up and bring her to the location of the date.
It’s best if you both arrive at the date at the same time, that way you don’t have to go looking for each other in a crowd. Make sure to figure out how you’ll be getting to the date. If it’s not in walking distance, then take a ride. Before you leave to pick her up, give her a confirmation call or text and let her know you are coming.
Taking public transit or riding your bike can also get you to the date. If it doesn’t make sense to meet up before the date because you both live far away, make sure to be on time for the date.
Open up the passenger side of the car door for her and close it once she is seated.
This is a gentlemanly gesture which some think is antiquated. Your date may or may not like it, so consider what sort of tone you want to set for the date. If you open the door for her and she reacts negatively, take note of it and possibly let her close the door on her own. Walk around the front of the car to get back to the driver’s side so you aren’t awkwardly making a long walk.
Consider buying her flowers.
If you would like to be romantic on a first date with a girl, buy her flowers. Give them to her when you pick her up. It is a nice gesture and shows that you have been thinking about the date for a while.
Roses are always a good choice if you are unsure of which type of flower to buy. But, if you feel this is too forward or old-school, skip it.
Open up the door for her at the restaurant, theater, or wherever else you are taking her.
This is expected of men and is thought of as polite. Unless she is really against you doing so, continue this practice throughout the date. Some women do not like it when men open doors for them because they feel it diminishes their abilities as a person. Your date will likely tell you if she thinks this way.
Also, if you are going to a fancy restaurant, pull back her chair for her. This will make it easier for her to get in. Again, some people think this is an antiquated practice but others find it very gentlemanly and polite.
What to say on a first date with a girl
Well you’re on the date now but what should you talk about? It might be silly but don’t focus on what you say but how you say it. Use body language because, it can be a real deal maker.
Make a lot of good eye contact. Holding eye contact makes you look a million times more confident. Because when you look away, it makes you look like a weak creep. Display good listening skills and really listen to what she is saying. Give a valid answer instead of “oh that’s nice”.
Don’t talk about serious things too quickly. First, talk about what they like to do for fun, their favorite TV shows, musicians, or weird pet peeves. Say things that’ll make her laugh, tell funny stories about your life. But never get too explicit. However, it’s ok to act goofy but if you do ittoo much it’s going to be hard for her to respect you, but at the same time being too serious will kill you.
During conversation, pay attention.
Put your phone on silent. Checking your phone for texts or emails during the date will show her that you do not truly care about the date. It sends the message that she is not as important as your phone. If you are expecting an important call, tell her beforehand.
The most important thing you can do on a first date is to be genuinely engaged and interested in what she is saying. When she is talking, listen to what she says. Smile and ask questions to show you are listening to her. If you don’t understand what she’s sharing, ask her to clarify. Share experiences of yours that relate to what she shares with you. People like to be heard and understood.
Ask her engaging questions.
The worst thing you can do on a first date is talk too much about yourself. Don’t give too much personal information, especially if it causes negativity. There’s a time and place to reveal the darker aspects of your life. A first date usually isn’t appropriate. Keep the mood light and fun.
Sometimes it’s a bit hard to come up with the topics to talk about with a girl. I want to make sure the conversation is an equal exchange. If you’re lucky, words will flow easily, but it might be helpful to have a few questions prepared just in case. Try to avoid controversial topics like religion or politics. These topics are almost guaranteed to make the date go poorly.
Here are a few icebreaker questions for a first date:
- What motivates you? What is your greatest passion?
- Where is the best place you’ve ever been?
- If money were no object, what would you do?
- Where would you go?
- What do you like to do on your days off?
Be specific with your compliments, but don’t go overboard and make them uncomfortable. Notice things they put effort into, like their hair, their stylish clothes, or jewelry. Make sure not to shower them with too many compliments or it may come off as fake, or like you have nothing else to say. You can say something like, “Wow, your shoes go well with the rest of your outfit. You look pretty.”
Do not try to force yourself on her.
Take things slow at first. Most girls don’t even want to be kissed on their first date. If she makes it clear that she wants to move quickly, or if she wants to hold hands, you’ll definitely know. It is also more respectful to take things slow because it sends the message that you care about more than just her body.
Try not to act too needy. If you have been obsessed with her since the moment you saw her, try not to explicitly say that on the first date. Instead, imply it by saying things like, “I’m so glad you decided to come out with me tonight!” Think about what you want to say when your date ends so it’s not awkward and you make it clear you want to see her again.
Get her back home safely.
Make sure that your date gets home safely by driving or walking home with them. Talk to your parents about giving them a ride home. Even if the date didn’t go well, you should take it upon yourself to make sure that they get home safely.
Last, but not least, be sure to correspond with her after the date to give closure.
It doesn’t matter what medium you choose: WhatsApp, email, or phone call, but just make sure you tell her that you had a good time. Also, if it is true, make sure you mention that you would love to go on another date with her.