The early days of a new relationship always feel magical. Everything the other person says and does is wonderful. You don’t feel upset or bored. Your partner is the most thoughtful, understanding, attractive person ever. At that stage, you have a happy and healthy relationship. However, at some point, that new relationship shine wears off. You start to take each other for granted.
As you get to know each other better, you relax and stop being on your best behavior whenever you’re together. While not all relationships are meant to last, it is possible to avoid some of the common pitfalls that can throw any relationship off-track and cause unhappiness. Being happy in a relationship can take some work, but if you’re in it for the long haul, the results are well worth it.
So, what can you do to maintain a healthy and happy relationship?
1. Work on the relationship
A garden not attended to develops weeds. These weeds can ultimately kill the heartiest plants. And so it is with relationships. It is important to address problems and misunderstandings immediately. Good healthy relationships do not just happen naturally. The truth is that a happy and healthy relationship, must be worked on regularly.
2. Schedule and spend time together
Good couples always make sure they spend enough time with their partners. Nothing can replace a good quality time spent together. However, it shouldn’t always be about making plans or checking off to-do lists. It should most often be about just hanging out, like it was in the early days of dating, and talking each other’s ears off. Either go to that special romantic dinner or go watch one of your favorite movies. Moreover, do your favorite activities together but make sure a third person is not involved. In addition, it should be just the two of you; no phones, no laptop. Healthy relationships tend to get stronger with spending more special time together.
3. Don’t forget the small things
Saying please and thank you shouldn’t be reserved for the company. Manners are important even with your partner. Give the same respect to your partner as you would to a visiting guest. Say please and thank you and make polite conversation. A few manners and niceties will go a long way to maintaining a happy and healthy relationship.
4. Trust without doubts
Good partners are those who have complete trust and faith in each other. You don’t need to check your partner’s phone every day nor check their Facebook to see what they’re Up to. Also, you don’t have to question your partner to make them feel like you are interrogating them. Infinite trust leads to infinite happiness. Once you learn to trust your partner with everything you have, you will get the same in return. You will live a happy and healthy love life.
5. Respect each other
There is no love without first developing mutual respect. Good partner’s in a healthy relationship respects each other. You both are individuals, you have your own tastes in life. You both have your own unique way of life therefore give each other as much respect as possible. Respect the choices they make because you are one of them. Besides, they need to respect yours as well. The support and love you two develop out of that respect is a strong foundation.
6. Don’t expect anything from your partner
Expectation brings disappointment. Most times, when we get in long-term relationships, we begin to expect things from our partner. They wash your clothes, so we come to expect it. We do the dishes every evening, so they start to expect us to. This is the worst thing you can do in a relationship.
For a happy and healthy relationship, get rid of the expectations. It doesn’t matter how often your partner does something. You should be grateful whenever they do it. The truth is, no one owes each other anything (even in relationships). Be appreciative if you’ve found someone who does certain things because they care and they love you.
7. Create space when necessary
Spending time apart is also an important component of a happy and healthy relationship. It is healthy to have some separate interests and activities. This will make you come back to the relationship refreshed and ready to share your experiences. Missing your partner also helps remind you of how important he or she is to you.
8. Be supportive
Confessing your love to someone is a huge statement. It means you’re their everything. You are there with them during the good and the bad. Healthy relationships includes supporting each other. You can’t be in love with them only when they’re at their happiest and you run away when they are down. Support them and ask for support from them when you’re going through a rough patch. Life is full of ups and downs for everyone and when you’re in love – you’re protected.
9. Be open
Nothing good ever came from keeping yourself wrapped up and closed off in a relationship. The happiest couples are the ones who share themselves with each other, openly and honestly, and continue to be vulnerable over time. Be open and share things with them. Doing this will also make your partner be open and share things with you. Letting someone see the parts of yourself that you may not love helps you to realize you aren’t that bad, and it helps you start to heal.
10. Comfortable Intimacy
The best couples have the best intimacy. They hug and kiss each other on a daily basis. They cuddle each other every chance they get. Intimacy does not only makes your relationship stronger but it also makes you happier and healthier as a person. Happy couples are those who know each other’s intimacy levels and they know when to do what. Additionally, healthy, happy couples realize that their physical connection is just as important as their emotional one. Don’t forget that your physical bonding helps makes everything else flow. Remember to prioritize s3x to keep yourselves connected.
11. Keep your relationship sacred
In today’s society, it’s common to badmouth your partner to friends, even in jest. That’s one of the ways people relate to each other, by discussing how awful their relationships are. If your relationship is so awful that you need to talk about it badly with friends and family, maybe you shouldn’t be in it. To have a happy and healthy relationship, you have to treat it like something unique and rare and precious. You have to treat it like something that you really value.